Why Women "Nag" and other rantings~
So this morning on the news a survey unveiled that women have trouble sleeping because they are worried about money. Not surprising since most women are the budget keepers in the family. When the men were asked what they worried about at night the answer was "nothing." I will never feel bad again when I get a migraine. Are you kidding me! NOTHING! Daron believes (and it is probably true) that when my worry level falls below a certain threshold I find something else to worry about. I wouldn't doubt it.
Back to the money issue. I know many many couples have this same issue. The men working and the women trying to budget the money they make. Just tonight I asked Daron to look at Priceline to book a hotel for one night. "Why am I doing this? I don't want to do this. This is not my job I did my job today." This is fine because budget is something of a foreign language to him and in the past he will spend WAY more than I would on a hotel. The nice thing is he just does it no stress no feeling of regret for not pre-planning just we need a room I got us a room move on!
So back to why I am up at night (along with all of the other women). I have to book tickets to Florida for a cruise that my parents are taking us on. Nice right! Right. If I don't DIE first trying to find an airline schedule that will work. I find plenty that look great until I realize we have to get a hotel the night before and possibly after, the times are perfect except the 6 a.m. depart when our cruise doesn't dock til 7 a.m. I know I know it is a good problem to have.
Daron and I don't really want to buy a house though sometimes I think it might be nice but then we don't have a down payment and if we decide to tighten the purse strings and save for one we can't visit family for a few years and that never seems to be an option. Either emotions, guilt, missing them, illness or an offer we can't refuse will come up. Sure folks can come here but not everyone can get off work or is in good enough health for the long ass trip out here! In addition I like to travel and would like to go to new places such as Oregon, Washington, Boston, California and Argentina. Our families live in Florida and Texas. Texas is one of my favorites and my in laws have a great home. Florida is hot. Really hot. But I love to visit my parents and they have a nice condo on the inter-coastal. But did I mention Washington, Oregon, Banff? I think the most stressful part is it is completely up to me. Daron doesn't care one way or the other. He loves his family and likes to visit but if it were up to him to make all the plans he would decide it's easier just not to go. This was just like my Dad and Mom. We wouldn't have traveled anywhere if it weren't for my Mom saying "ohh would you like to go to the Bahama's Brian we could take the girls..." I am sure he just looked up from his paper with his pipe in his mouth and said "uh huh." I am glad we went on that trip I was about six years old and it was awesome. I am also sure that he wasn't the one who spearheaded the drives to Florida to see his parents or the trips to St. Louis to visit my moms family. A few years ago when we were in Montana I asked Dad if he wanted to go to Glacier National Park he said "No I've seen mountains before." Fair enough! I do however remember my Dad doing the bills when I was a kid. I wondered why he was always grumpy after the fact. Now I know!
Then I worry about having enough money when Daron and I get older, will we have enough for health insurance, will there be health insurance? What if the stock market just goes completely away? Should I be putting cash in a fire proof lock box under my bed? I think I just have to stop worry about making the right decision because there isn't one!
Oh and I asked the kids to turn off the hose yesterday because they were filling puddles up after a short rain we had. What a waste I thought and I didn't want to add to our water budget. When I mentioned this Daron looked like me like I had two heads. Am I going overboard I thought? The kids are entertained and quiet. How much was that worth? Apparently it was worth a lot because I said to hell with it and let the water run. I told Addy to shut the refrigerator door "because we aren't cooling the whole house" yup just like my Dad used to say! I asked Daron to put the leftovers in a tupperware the other night. On occasion he has forgot and of course people would say I was "nagging" but it all falls back to the budget. If you waste food it throws my grocery budget off. In fact, any nagging women do it because men cannot plan ahead. I get home and think change the laundry so the clothes don't sour, empty the dishwasher, start dinner, clean up the toys, water the plants, get a drink of water, make sure Addy uses the restroom, feed that cat that keeps following me, turn the fish tank light off, write down the ten things I thought about in the car and oh ya I have to go to the bathroom. Men come home and think. Beer. Thank goodness they do because "hurricane Jen" as Daron calls me times two would be a nightmare!
My first priority is Addy so that makes most of the decisions easier. Whatever is in her best interest we do. I prefer not to work so Addy and I can go to the library, color, paint, and sew (All of which we did this afternoon) and I don't mind budgeting at all although the last four days before payday can be a bit tight. But do I stress about money like many folks in America - yes! Do I try not to - yes! Will I continue to? Yes, probably. Will I wonder why I often get headaches? No not anymore!